Comments on: Making Her Feel Special http://thegeeksdatingguide.com The step by step dating guide for the skinny, the fat, the ugly, the pale, the geek and the nerds alike! Fri, 21 Nov 2008 09:38:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: briell3 http://thegeeksdatingguide.com/keeping-her/making-her-feel-special/#comment-42 briell3 Wed, 02 Apr 2008 01:54:04 +0000 http://thegeeksdatingguide.com/keeping-her/making-her-feel-special/#comment-42 "Don’t even compliment her unless she earns it." ... I'm sorry... what? That's awful. You don't "earn" compliments. What is she, a dog? "Oh good girl! I approve of something you did! You get a compliment!" Sure, you shouldn't compliment a girl 24/7; she'll start to think you're faking them. But compliments are things you say when you feel they're true. Think she looks gorgeous in that dress? Tell her! If you wait around for her to "earn" a compliment before you give one, she'll be gone quick to someone who will appreciate her. “Don’t even compliment her unless she earns it.”

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I’m sorry… what?

That’s awful. You don’t “earn” compliments. What is she, a dog? “Oh good girl! I approve of something you did! You get a compliment!”

Sure, you shouldn’t compliment a girl 24/7; she’ll start to think you’re faking them. But compliments are things you say when you feel they’re true.

Think she looks gorgeous in that dress? Tell her!

If you wait around for her to “earn” a compliment before you give one, she’ll be gone quick to someone who will appreciate her.

]]> By: Advoor http://thegeeksdatingguide.com/keeping-her/making-her-feel-special/#comment-26 Advoor Wed, 26 Mar 2008 21:42:16 +0000 http://thegeeksdatingguide.com/keeping-her/making-her-feel-special/#comment-26 GamerDarling I agree with all your points except the 'Offering to pay' point. At times this is acceptable e.g. the first date or every other time, but making it a usual habit is something I would advise against as it's not a position I would want to be in judging from the previous experiences. As for the thing about complimenting - its okay to compliment at times, but doing a lot, even though she deserves it can be a negative point - heck, a mate of mine used to always compliment his girl friend, making her think shes too good for him in the end and ended up dumping him - so it can go both ways. I guess all it is, is finding the right balance - once you get that, it should really go very smoothly. GamerDarling I agree with all your points except the ‘Offering to pay’ point. At times this is acceptable e.g. the first date or every other time, but making it a usual habit is something I would advise against as it’s not a position I would want to be in judging from the previous experiences.

As for the thing about complimenting - its okay to compliment at times, but doing a lot, even though she deserves it can be a negative point - heck, a mate of mine used to always compliment his girl friend, making her think shes too good for him in the end and ended up dumping him - so it can go both ways.

I guess all it is, is finding the right balance - once you get that, it should really go very smoothly.

]]> By: GamerDarling http://thegeeksdatingguide.com/keeping-her/making-her-feel-special/#comment-22 GamerDarling Wed, 26 Mar 2008 20:43:53 +0000 http://thegeeksdatingguide.com/keeping-her/making-her-feel-special/#comment-22 But he's wrong in saying that you shouldn't do it if you wouldn't do it for a guy friend. I honestly expect my guy to treat me better than his friends. Not in big lavishing ways, but in the little things. -Opening doors -Holding her hand -Calling when you say you will -Greeting her first when you arrive, as in before your friends -Always giving her the front seat when she rides in your car -Never underestimate the power of a light kiss on her forehead. -Offering to pay -Complimenting, you say she should have to 'earn it' I disagree. If she's into you, she'll put in effort that you may never notice. If you think of one, and it's true, say it. She'll appreciate it, and it won't be 'overboard'. Showering her with gifts may be overboard, sometimes. But doing things that are just chivalrous are never overboard. Alot of those things are things you wouldn't do for a guy friend, but that you should try to do for a girlfriend. But he’s wrong in saying that you shouldn’t do it if you wouldn’t do it for a guy friend. I honestly expect my guy to treat me better than his friends. Not in big lavishing ways, but in the little things.

-Opening doors
-Holding her hand
-Calling when you say you will
-Greeting her first when you arrive, as in before your friends
-Always giving her the front seat when she rides in your car
-Never underestimate the power of a light kiss on her forehead.
-Offering to pay
-Complimenting, you say she should have to ‘earn it’ I disagree. If she’s into you, she’ll put in effort that you may never notice. If you think of one, and it’s true, say it. She’ll appreciate it, and it won’t be ‘overboard’.

Showering her with gifts may be overboard, sometimes. But doing things that are just chivalrous are never overboard. Alot of those things are things you wouldn’t do for a guy friend, but that you should try to do for a girlfriend.

]]> By: Mandi http://thegeeksdatingguide.com/keeping-her/making-her-feel-special/#comment-9 Mandi Fri, 21 Mar 2008 03:13:54 +0000 http://thegeeksdatingguide.com/keeping-her/making-her-feel-special/#comment-9 While I don't know if I agree with everything you said here, you do make a point. When it comes to a guy who is pouring attention and gifts on a girl, many women won't develop a sense of attraction. It's human nature to want a chase, and if you seem too attentive, it drives us nuts. Or we worry that we would hurt you if it didn't work out. Balance is key here. Think of how pressured you would feel if a girl called you 87 times in one day.... While I don’t know if I agree with everything you said here, you do make a point. When it comes to a guy who is pouring attention and gifts on a girl, many women won’t develop a sense of attraction. It’s human nature to want a chase, and if you seem too attentive, it drives us nuts. Or we worry that we would hurt you if it didn’t work out. Balance is key here. Think of how pressured you would feel if a girl called you 87 times in one day….

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